Confessions of a 25 Year Old (25 Life Lessons)
I just celebrated my 26th birthday over the weekend! My birthday week led to a lot of self-reflection and conversations. Here are the top 25 lessons that I’ve learned in the past 365 days.
Friendships go through seasons. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes you just have to reflect and regroup. True friendship will be able to stand the test of time and bounce back to be even stronger.
Quality over quantity. Friendships. Relationships. Food. Clothes. Cherish the small things.
Job-hopping might actually be okay. I always had this idea in my head that being a successful adult meant finding a job and sticking to it for years. Recently, I realized that I was so wrong. Yes, a job maybe good in a particular season, but who says that I have to settle for one position, especially if it isn’t fulfilling? Now, I’m more open minded and am excited to see where I end up next.
See in yourself what others see in you. If I’m honest, hearing my friends speak of me so highly still genuinely shocks me sometimes. I have to remind myself constantly that I am pretty amazing and I am embody all of those things and more.
God is faithful. This is pretty much self-explanatory. Get to know Him for yourself.
Holding grudges are pointless. It does nothing to/for the other person. In the end you’re only hurting yourself. Do yourself a favor and let. it. go.
Be unavailable. You don’t have to attend every single event or answer every single phone call. Sometimes you have to lay low in order to be the best you that you can be.
Step outside of my comfort zone. This year, I’ve done a few things that I didn’t see myself doing in a million years. I took a job in a different field and joined a songwriting class just to name a couple of things. I look forward to doing more things that will challenge me in this 26th year.
Don’t let anyone rush your journey. Everyone has their own journey. I had to realize that I can’t allow someone else’s opinions, judgments, or insecurities make me do things out of season in order to please them.
Hard conversations are necessary. This year, I’ve conquered my fear of having conversations that are years overdue, especially with my parents. Although they were tough, the outcome was far better than I expected.
It’s not always the other person. At some point you have to be accountable for your own actions and words.
You have to be active in your own healing. I can walk around all day saying that I want to be healed; the manifestation only comes when I do my part. I can’t expect somebody else to take control of my future.
Accountability is important. We’re not called to do life alone. If you’re struggling in an area, find someone that you trust that you can talk to and that will lovingly bring you back to the right path.
Get a mentor. Whether its someone to help you with personal matters or career wise, find someone who’s a little wiser to help you embark on your journey. I love my mentor and the idea of having someone I can bounce ideas off of, tells me the truth about everything, and genuinely want to see me succeed in all areas of life.
Self-care is key. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive. Sometimes just making up in your mind that after work you’re going to take a hot shower and mindlessly watch tv until bedtime is enough. You can’t take care of others if you aren’t together yourself.
Dreams may change. Your dreams are just that, yours. You know what will and what won’t work for you. What I thought I wanted at 22 is not what I want now and that is totally fine.
Don’t underestimate the wisdom of parents. I don’t know about you, but now that I’m an adult, sometimes, the know-it-all spirit tries to take over. This year I’ve learned that contrary to what I believed, there is always room to learn more. Never be too grown to sit at your parent’s feet to soak in all they’ve learned in their years of living.
Protect your peace. Guard your eyes, ears, and heart. Sometimes you have to ignore that phone call or turn the channel in order to keep yourself in a good
Older doesn’t always mean wiser. Don’t believe the hype. Age isn’t always a prerequisite for wisdom.
Seek wise council. Everybody doesn’t have your best interest at heart. I have a core group that I go to when I need advice or help making a tough decision. I know they will give me sound advice and most importantly, I know they’ll support it from a spiritual standpoint.
Cry, cry, cry. Tears can express pretty much any emotion imaginable. Don’t let society make you feel like crying is a sign of weakness. You’ll feel so much better once you just get it out.
A year can change everything. This time last year I was a mess. I was still getting over a break up, my friendships were going down the drain, I hated my job, and the list goes on. Although everything isn’t perfect, I am nowhere near where I was last year. I’m happy, healthy, and flourishing out here in these streets.
Love thyself. You can’t others to love you and see your worth if you don’t see it within yourself. Self-love is the best love (outside of God’s love).
Get out of your own way. Don’t be your own stumbling block. You can do whatever you put your mind to!
Make your flaws your strengths. Having flaws isn’t necessarily a bad thing. There is a reason why you act the way you do, dress a certain way, talk like that, and look that way. Find the good in what you consider bad and work it!
What is your top life lesson that you have learned so far? Let me know in the comments below!